By pure chance I happened to catch the end of a news item on TV tonight. Parents were expressing concern over the content of stories being read to their preschool children, such as A tale of two daddies. One mother stated that she does not send her child to preschool to learn about homosexuality or sexuality. I must admit, I never have been able to understand this perspective. For that matter, I don’t even understand what it has to do with sex. What’s the difference between referring to “Daddy and Daddy” and referring to “Daddy and Mummy”? And how is the one somehow about sex while the other, presumably, is not? I don’t remember ever hearing of a book being challenged on the grounds that it mentions a child’s mother and father, thereby implying a sexual relationship. Why are two fathers lucky enough to be about sex while a mother and a father are labelled only as parents?
I seriously, seriously, just don’t get it. I never have, since I was a child, and my father first tried to explain the concept of homosexuality to me (it was a storyline in Cop Shop) and why it might be considered a problem (I wonder what he’d say to me now?!). I mean, who cares who the parents are? Whether they be mothers, fathers, gender-queer parents or whatever label; whether they be one, two, three or more? Personally I’d rather know that the child feels loved, safe, curious about life and able to learn, explore and develop with a sense that it is safe to be itself.
In order to understand why people feel so strongly about censorship, I am therefore trying to challenge myself by use of an extreme example: child pornography. I’ll admit that it has never occurred to me to feel indignant at the censorship of child pornography. Why? Because I accept the extraordinarily high likelihood of harm to children from engagement in adult-level sexual activity. I must therefore admit to an instinct to ban self expression if it is likely to result in / promote activities that are harmful to someone. The sobering extrapolation is, of course, that many people genuinely believe that certain ideas, and certain people, are harmful by their very nature. And that makes me feel very uncomfortable. Not to mention immensely sad. How shall we decide what is or is not okay? Is it even possible? And who will suffer the consequences of our choices?
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